In life, connection is what makes life lustrous.
My roommate Gino and I were recently talking about the concept of connection and he enlightened me with his “checklist” of what he expects in terms of relationships with women. Beyond the expected smart, kind, attractive, expressive and so on is what he considers the most important quality – the “wild card.” It’s the ability to truly feel a mind-to-mind connection with someone. It’s when minds, souls and hearts unite, and you feel so captivated by the other person that conversation is compelling and free without judgement, interpretation or confusion as to what the other person means. You feel like you “get” that person, talking will ensue for hours without interruption, and often, when the other person speaks, their words are so aligned with the thoughts in your mind, it’s eerie.
To me, friendships and relationships that embody this atypical, lasting connection are the most important and unique. When they present themselves, they are pre-sent gifts to be cherished. Cherish them by immersing yourself in the moment and allowing yourself to become enthralled in that person’s reality because life will change and people will grow. Weeks, months or years may go by without interacting with this person but when they come back in your life, the connection never ceases to end.
I can count about ten people in my life that I feel this connection with. Growing up, I thought I wanted to have a ton of friends. What I’ve learned is that having less, more meaningful and intimate connections is far more valuable and fulfilling. Moments with them are always memorable and these experiences keep me smiling for weeks, months and years.
